I always enjoy writing my thankful Thursday posts. It's an opportunity to take stock of my life, recognise the plethora of good that surrounds me. But tonight words are so hard to find. I've just been completely backhanded by someone who I considered one of my closest friends, all because of this blog. I've been picked apart like frog in a high school biology class. And it is not a nice feeling.
When I started HTandT it was a place to get creative, to exercise my mind while I'm on maternity leave, keep it fit, if you will. Then I received the following advice from fellow bloggers...
Be yourself... write for you
So I did. I used HTandT as a platform to put my thoughts and feelings into words. This is MY space, and the words here are nothing but my own personal ramblings. Surely there's no harm in that? I once wrote a guest post on Magneto Bold Too about the desire to be anonymous, and right now I wish that I was. In the beginning, I considered the possibility of my words being used against me. The possibility that people could read between the lines and misconstrue my posts. I'll be careful. I thought to myself, and I set some guidelines. I won't write about people without forewarning them. I won't write about sensitive topics.
And now I sit here. Unable to eat my comfort food. Not feeling like talking or writing, yet determined to have something to present for Thankful Thursday, even if I'm not feeling very thankful right now. This place has become an addiction and the thought of not posting something on a Thursday makes me twitch.
I'm thankful that Puberty Blues is on tonight so I can turn my mind off for a while. What are you thankful for?
Oh Kel... I don't know what to say. I'm sending you a hug :) The crappy thing about writing is that words and their meanings can always be misinterpreted unless you're pretty blunt about a topic...
ReplyDeleteEven though I'm not quite sure of the situation, I hope it can be sorted out.
I'm thankful for my darling, patient mum who is helping me sew a funky pair of harem pants for my stylish little girl!
Sophie xo
Thanks Sophie xx
DeleteI hope you'll be posting a pic of the harem pants! :)
Kel... I'm thankful for you writing these posts!! They always make my day to see what's been happening in the world of HT&T!! I think you're a wonderful writer and shouldn't ever give this up - you are an amazing writer and you should definitely keep it up girlfriend!! :)
ReplyDeleteSo THANK YOU for being so creative and honest and funny and witty and all those good things!! It makes my days at work much more interesting!
Miss you luvvy!!
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You're a gem D. A bright and sparkly gem xx
Deletexoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo. That is all.
ReplyDeleteThat and sushi and chocolate and ice cream and red nails. Winning!
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Hi Kelly, I am sorry that this has happened to you. Hopefully it's just a misinterpretation of your words and can be fixed in time. XLisa
ReplyDeleteThanks Lisa x
DeleteWhat an awful feeling. Hope it gets resolved and you can continue to enjoy your friendship and your blog xx
ReplyDeleteFriendship, no :( But blog, most definitely x
DeleteFairy wishes and butterfly kisses lovely, hope this all sorts itself out xxx
ReplyDeleteThanks Rhianna x
DeleteOh phoooey... That is not cool at all.... Not Cool!
ReplyDeleteI am glad you posted SOMETHING... shows that you believe in what you are doing.
It is hard when someone close to you criticises, it bites.
I hope you can find a way forward. I really do.
Hugs for you,
B
It does bite, doesn't it? But I do believe in this space, even if some people choose to make a mockery of it.
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I'm sorry to read that Kelly, I do hope it's just a misunderstanding. It's so hard to discern tone on the internet and she may just have totally misunderstood your intentions.
ReplyDeleteYes unfortunately the written word is open to interpretation and so easily manipulated. I've learnt that lesson the hard way too many times!
DeleteThanks Kyla x
How awful. It is probably my biggest fear about blogging, but for me it is also about facing that fear. Hugs x
ReplyDeleteThank you x
DeleteOh sorry to read hun, this is where I'm glad (although a little hurt) that virtually none of my friends read my blog. Keep your chin up you're doing a great job on your blog xx
ReplyDeleteThanks so much Chrissie.
DeleteI know what you mean, when a few of my friends admitted they'd never even looked at my blog I was a little hurt! Now though, it's a blessing ;-) xx
Hugs. Context, oversharing, blah blah. Usually, when someone has a problem with something you're doing, it's their problem, not yours. Comforting? Not really. Back to the hugs. x
ReplyDeleteNo Emily you're wrong, that is VERY comforting! Thank you x
DeleteThat's terrible - I'm sorry to read about what's happened to you. It's funny, I was very guarded at first about who I told I had a blog - just my best friends who I knew would be supported. I never told anyone in my mother's group for instance as I had the feleing my blog posts would become gossip and 'joked about'. Gradually, the friends and family who read my blog has increased but I'm still wary of who I let in on my 'secret'. I think only fellow bloggers can truly get why us bloggers write and share what we do here in blogland. Don't let this incident stop you blogging though, as you say, it's your space and you are free to curate it however you wish! x
ReplyDeleteI know what you mean about the feeling your posts would be joked about. And yes, so many people just don't get it. I was one of them until recently. Thank you Amanda x
DeleteBefore I started the MumSpeak blog I had been blogging on another blog on a different topic but felt like I really needed to share my own personal thoughts and motherhood experiences - and it wasn't suitable to be blogged about in the the other blog. So I started the MumSpeak blog and a close friend said "You are really trying to be a blogger aren't you?" The way it came across was so condescending and hurtful - and I am so glad that person chose NOT to follow my blog. Hugs to you. I hope it will blow over soon. x
ReplyDeleteThank you. I've considered starting a second anonymous blog so I can speak my mind without being accused of being hurtful! x
DeleteI've read most of your blogs and the thing is, I cant find a spot where you were being disrespectful to anyone without good reason.. so I really dont' know what their deal is.
ReplyDeleteYou are YOU, this is YOUR space.. do as you will. The rest can go peaaaseee offf!!!!
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Thanks Meagan, that means a lot xx
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